I was described as shy and a little anti-social growing up. It was difficult for me to make friends because I was nervous about being the one to approach someone I didn’t know, and I never felt like the other kids really got me. For the most part I am still that way, but the devotional on Spiritual Mothers (and wonderful comments!) over at She Reads Truth really opened my eyes about having spiritual mothers and sisters, and spiritual community!
I don’t need to be a social butterfly, but I need friends. I don’t need to have a formal mentor, but I need someone that I can look up to, talk with, learn from, and who will help me grow. I need a spiritual mother and sisters.
Don’t get me wrong, I have wonderful friends and a wonderful female family support in my sisters and mom, and my mother-in-law, but most of my support network lives far away. I am very lucky to have a close friend and spiritual sister that lives close by, though because of work we don’t get to see each other enough. But I want a spiritual community of women. A physical spiritual community of women. I follow numerous wonderful blogs by other Christian women, and She Reads Truth is an amazing community, but it is not the same as having someone to go get coffee with.
I don’t know how one gets (or becomes!) a mentor, but it is something that I have thought about for a while. When people say, “my mentor told me…”, I silently think, ‘I want a mentor’ but that’s as far as it goes. I am too soft spoken to ask for help, and appear too self-sufficient for anyone to offer.
What the devotional really spoke to me about was not only my own desire to have a mentor, but that I should be willing and open to being a mentor. I never feel worthy to be put in charge of projects at work, forget helping with someone’s LIFE! (Don’t get me started on my fear of being worthy of motherhood at some point…)
But, verse 4 kept hitting me.
Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children – Titus 2:4
Then they… I am the they! Instead of hiding, I should be teaching, guiding, shining! This was such a wake up call to me. Just because I don’t have someone I would label as my mentor, does not mean that I cannot BE a mentor! I don’t feel ready to jump in, and I know I will never be completely ready for any of this, but God will make me ready. If I let Him.
If I let myself live His will and not my own. That’s the key to it all.
Do you have a mentor? How did you meet, and what have you learned? Do you long for a mentor? Or a spiritual mother (or father) or sisters (or brothers?) Share your mentoring experiences, I would love to hear about them!