For those of you that missed our wonderful news, we are expecting our first baby, a girl, this June! And this whole pregnancy adventure has definitely been an adventure so far. Like life in general it has it’s ups and downs, though right now sitting in the mid-end of my second trimester it has mostly been ups lately.
When I first found out I was pregnant I read a LOT on the interwebs on what to expect, when would morning sickness start, body changes, mood changes, and all that fun stuff. And I found this great book to help me out too! I sat down at the bookstore with like five or six pregnancy books but this one took the cake. It’s easy to understand and is realistic while not trying to scare you away from everything (i.e. baths, sushi, et cetera). I highly recommend it over the What to Expect series, but that’s just me. And I digress…
Anyway, the interwebs are filled with LOTs of a advice and tips and heads up on what is going to happen during your pregnancy. But. It’s not all going to apply to you. Trust me. That is what this post is about, I wanted to share some of the things about pregnancy that I was not expecting. But please please please keep in mind that every woman’s pregnancy is different and not all of these might happen to you. Don’t freak out if they don’t. I spent weeks worrying that my morning sickness wasn’t “bad enough” and that it meant something was wrong with my baby. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy was just different from others that I had read about.
So without further adieu, here are some things that I didn’t know about pregnancy until they happened to me. In no particular order…
1. Morning sickness is not just throwing up. In the movies they always show the first sign of pregnancy as the woman rushing to the bathroom to be sick, but for me I only got sick like that maybe three or four times during my first trimester. Instead I had to battle nausea. Nausea that was so bad sometimes I stayed home from work. Nausea that would strike as soon as I woke up and would sometimes last all weekend no matter what I tried. (Though admittedly I did not ask for any anti-nausea meds from my doc.) For me, morning sickness was definitely related to my blood sugar because anytime I got hungry the nausea would hit like a tidal wave. Sometimes eating something would help, sometimes it wouldn’t. Ugh. I was so thankful that it stopped when I hit the end of my first trimester. But oyster crackers were a lifesaver for me, I kept a small tupperware of them in my purse for when the pangs of hunger started and that would usually help. I also ate some before I even got out of bed to help stave off the nausea in the mornings.
2. Your boobs will get big. And then they will probably get bigger. So I knew that a woman’s breasts get bigger when she gets pregnant because they are getting ready for feeding a baby, that makes sense to me. What I was not expecting was needing new bras only ten weeks in, and then needing new bras again at about 16 weeks. And already those new bras are getting a little small in the cup department. Le sigh. I have been warned that they will get even bigger after Little Bean arrives because that’s when my milk will arrive as well. So much money spent on bras… But let me say that it was well worth the money to get new bras when I needed them. I have heard about bra extenders, that can make the band of your bra bigger, but for me that wouldn’t have worked. My band size did not really go up, but my cup size definitely did! so I needed a new bra. And the support of a bra that actually fits you is amazing. Amazing. (See here for how to see if your bra size is right.)
3. You might have REALLY weird dreams. I have never had such vivd or just plain weird dreams than since I got pregnant. This past week I had a dream about trying to order a cake at a bakery and the woman behind the counter wouldn’t listen to me and I woke up so angry at like 2 am that I couldn’t fall back asleep for a while. It was a cake, not a big deal… I have weird dreams every night, sometimes they are scary, sometimes just bizarre. Thankfully I haven’t had any night terrors since we moved up here which is a huge relief. But the dreams are super weird.
4. Fatigue will probably kick your butt. Seriously though having to sit up right might be exhausting. Thankfully for me the bad fatigue went away at the end of my first trimester, but for a while there is was really kicking my butt. (And I hear that in the third trimester you go back to exhausted.) I would wake up feeling like I hadn’t slept at all, and then would have to leave work early some days because I was so tired I couldn’t get anything done. Walking up a set of stairs would be exhausting, and forget trying to carry something more than my purse around. It felt like I had run a marathon without the actually running part.
5. You will probably have to search really hard for nice maternity clothes. True this isn’t really about your body, but it was a struggle for me. When my belly first started to grow I began the search for some maternity clothes I could wear to work, I figured at home that I could just wear sweats for a while. But all I could find was t-shirts or tanks and jeans. And I can’t wear t-shirts and jeans to work. I was trying to avoid going to maternity stores like Motherhood Maternity because I had heard that their prices are kinda high, especially compared to Target or Kohl’s, but Target only had t-shirts and jeans, and not many styles at that. It was really frustrating until I just gave in and went to Motherhood Maternity. Yes they were pricey, but they had business clothes that I could wear to work which was the important part. Also, I tried to not go crazy, but just bought a shirt or two and some pants for now. It was winter when I started getting big, but I’ll be even bigger this spring and early summer so I didn’t want to have a closet of long-sleeve maternity shirts and sweaters.
6. It is a crazy feeling to have a little one inside of you kick you. At times it can be painful, especially since Little Bean’s favorite target right now is my bladder, but it is so surreal and wonderful. Despite all of the crazy stuff that happens and the bad times and symptoms, little baby kicks are worth it. They are amazing reminders of what this is all for.
And those are the biggest things that I have been surprised by during my pregnancy. Anything you weren’t expecting while expecting?