On my first day at my new job I was handed a folder of different forms and paperwork that I needed to fill out. Most of it I filled out that day while sitting at my new desk, but one packet I had to take home with me. It was my “Burial Arrangement Worksheet”. I looked it over and succeeded in writing in y name, address and phone number. And that was it. In an instant it was so overwhelming, and I couldn’t even think to read the rest of the packet. So I put it in my folder to take home and complete later.
Over the past week and a half I’ve come back to that packet again and again, reading the blanks that I am suppose to fill in and the options I have to choose from. But it’s taken me until today to complete it fully. Some of the decisions were easy, for example, I want to be cremated not buried. But others, such as if I wanted my body viewed at the funeral home or what scriptures I wanted read at my memorial service, I had never thought about in my life. What did I want??
Of course, I talked all of this over with D since once I am gone these things are really of little consequence to me and more for those I leave behind, but this is a very difficult conversation to have. It took us a few tries before we could actually talk about it, but once we did I feel so much better about it.
I feel better that now if something should happen to me those who will need to make arrangements will know my own wishes. I feel that taking out the guess work and relieving them of the pressure of having to make those decisions later will help at least a little.
Have you thought about such things?